Why Children Need a Different Type of Therapy Than Adults

by | Dec 16, 2025 | Child Counseling

When parents consider therapy, they often imagine sitting and talking through problems with a therapist. While this approach can be effective for adults, children require a distinct type of therapy, one that aligns with the unique development of their brains, bodies, and emotions.

Children are not just small adults. They experience emotions, stress, and relationships in unique ways, which is why play therapy is often the most effective form of counseling for children.

Children Express Themselves Through Play, Not Talk

Adults rely on words to process emotions. Children, however, are still developing the language and cognitive skills needed to explain how they feel. When children experience anxiety, behavioral challenges, trauma, or emotional overwhelm, they often cannot talk about it directly.

Instead, children communicate through:

  • Play

  • Art

  • Movement

  • Pretend and imagination

This is why play therapy for children is so effective. Play is a child’s natural language. In the playroom, toys become words, and play becomes the way children tell their stories, work through fears, and practice coping skills.

Why Talk Therapy Doesn’t Always Work for Children

Traditional talk therapy requires insight, reflection, and abstract thinking, skills that are still developing in children. Expecting a child to sit and talk like an adult can feel overwhelming or even impossible.

Children often show distress through behavior instead of words, such as:

  • Emotional outbursts or meltdowns

  • Aggression or withdrawal

  • Anxiety or perfectionism

  • Difficulty with transitions

  • Regression (bedwetting, clinginess, baby talk)

Play therapy meets children at their developmental level, allowing healing to happen in ways that feel natural and safe.

Children Experience Stress in Their Bodies First

A child’s nervous system is still developing. When children experience stress, trauma, or big emotions, their bodies react before their minds can make sense of it. This is why emotional struggles often show up as behavioral challenges.

Play therapy helps children:

  • Regulate their nervous system

  • Release stored stress and tension

  • Feel safe and grounded in their bodies

This body-based regulation is something traditional adult therapy models often miss—but it is essential for children’s emotional health.

Healing Happens Through Relationship

Children heal through relationships. A trained child therapist creates a safe, consistent, and accepting therapeutic relationship where children feel understood and valued.

Through this relationship, children learn:

  • Their feelings are okay

  • They can express emotions safely

  • They have choices and a sense of control

  • Relationships can be predictable and secure

These lessons are learned experientially through play, not lectures or advice.

Behavior Is Communication

In play therapy, behavior is viewed as communication—not defiance or manipulation. When children act out, withdraw, or become overwhelmed, they are often expressing unmet needs, fear, or emotional overload.

Rather than focusing only on stopping behaviors, child-centered play therapy focuses on understanding the meaning behind them. As children feel emotionally supported, behaviors naturally improve.

How Play Therapy Helps Children

Play therapy is an evidence-based approach designed specifically for children. It can help with:

  • Childhood anxiety

  • Emotional regulation

  • Behavioral challenges

  • Trauma and medical stress

  • Grief and life transitions

  • Self-esteem and confidence

By honoring a child’s pace and developmental needs, play therapy supports long-term emotional growth—not just short-term behavior change.

A Message for Parents

If your child is struggling, it does not mean you have failed as a parent or that something is “wrong” with your child. It means your child may need support that fits how children actually grow and heal.

Children don’t need to be fixed.
They need to be understood.

Play Therapy in Richmond, Texas

At Collective Hope Counseling, we specialize in child-centered play therapy and developmentally informed counseling for children and families. Our approach is grounded in respect, relationship, and a deep understanding of how children communicate and heal.

If you are searching for:

  • Play therapy near me

  • Child therapy for anxiety

  • Therapy for emotional or behavioral concerns

  • A child therapist who understands development

We would be honored to support your family.

Contact Collective Hope Counseling today at 832-521-8809 to learn more about play therapy and how to get started. 

About the author:

<a href="http://collectivehopecounseling.com/about" target="_blank">Stephanie Rodenberg-Lewis</a>

Stephanie Rodenberg-Lewis

Stephanie is a licensed professional counselor, a registered play therapist, a national certified counselor and a certified school counselor. She has over 17 years of experience working with children as a classroom teacher, school counselor and licensed therapist. She founded Collective Hope Counseling in August 2020 to help serve her community. With her extensive experience in child development, she knew she wanted to work with kids and their families. Stephanie completed additional training in child centered play therapy and became a certified+ play therapy professional in 2024.